Copyright (c) 2008 Neo Young
Knowing exactly how to touch a girl will give you the edge that most guys don’t have in leading her from the first kiss to making love in a way that respects and honors her all the while guiding her into the level of intimacy she chooses to experience with you
When you are touching a girl in a way that she really enjoys, she will be showing you by the way she looks at you, by the way she smiles, and by the way she opens up. You can then lead her further to her sensual opening.
If she is tensing up, crossing her arms, or moving away, then you know that she is not yet ready for that level of touch intimacy.
If you are not with a girl right now, get a piece of fabric and practice touching it in the ways that I will go over.
If you are dating or in a relationship, put these distinctions into practice this week!
Think of it as practicing your kicks in martial arts, foul shots in basketball, serves in tennis, and driving in golf. In beginning to learn how to touch a girl, you will have to dedicate yourself to the art of touch.
If you are uncomfortable with touch in general, start to get comfortable and touch everyone and everything around you.
When I say touch, I don’t mean grope, I don’t mean just walking up and directly and grabbing someone.
While learning how to touch a woman, everything needs to be smooth and progressive rather than rough and abrupt. This means your initial touch might be a light brush that lasts half a second.
I won’t have time here to outline in detail the exact progression of touch here where you can lead a girl easily and comfortably from the first hello, to holding her hands, to kissing her, to beyond because the art of touch needs the full attention of a couple of chapters in my book.
I will start you off with some mindsets you need to have as you begin to get comfortable with touching girls.
How to touch a girl tip #1: Stroke her as you would a cat
When you touch or stroke your woman, approach slowly, gently, softly, and with no sudden movements. Be intentional and sensitive in your touch. Feel into what parts of her is relaxing into you and whether to use broad or short strokes.
Notice the speed of your touch, the rhythm of your touch, and how to use your body as part of the touch. If you are not sensitive in your touch, a cat will run away or even scratch you.
Same thing with a woman, so practice your ability to touch women with delicate artistry
How to touch a girl tip #2: Touch her as if you have all the time in the world
Most guys mess up with girls and make them feel creeped out because they’re in a hurry. The girl can tell that the guy is after something – sex.
Even if the touch is brief, the sense of timelessness can linger with her if you touch her with presence.
If you can use your touch to lead her out of her mind, the busy day, and the stress and tension of life into a realm of timeless pleasure, then you will become a haven for her.
How you touch a girl will show her how extraordinary you will be in bed, so make you touch last seemingly forever.
Girls will be wishing they could be with you and stay with you long after you’re gone if you can create these kinds of feelings and moments.
How to touch a girl tip #3: Touch her as much as you can
Girls love being touched. They crave it actually. Of course, they don’t want to be touched by just any man, or in any way.
A woman has to be feeling some kind of existing connection to you before she’s ready to be touched sensually and often by you.
Create that readiness in her through your words and attitude first.
Playfulness and humor are always a great place to come from to get a woman to open up to you on a more sensual level.
When a girl says something funny, touch her as a way to connect.
You’ll notice that when you say something funny, women will often touch you as they laugh. When she does something incredible, or shows a part of her personality that you really enjoy, touch her as a sign of your approval.
When she is tense, but her body language is open, give her a massage. When she feels a bit stressed, pull her toward you and hold her.
If you are having dinner, sit next to her and stroke her hair to add to the pleasure and sensations from the food. You get the idea.
How to touch a girl tip #4: Romance her with your touch
Almost half of all books sold in the US are romance novels. This shows you how much women want romance.
Give her what she wants!
Touch her as if you are an amazing lover waiting to sweep her off her feet.
Hold her and create a protective bubble where the rest of the world does not exist for a moment. Enchant her with the way you draw her out with your touch. Express your passion for her through your touch.
How to touch a girl tip #5: Touch her as if she means the world to you
This mindset might feel like a stretch in the beginning, but with time, it will become more and more natural to who you are, and you will naturally give more of yourself when relating with women.
How would you touch her if you chose her 100%?
If this is the woman you cherished beyond almost anything in your life, your car, your house, your money, anything you possess, how would you touch her?
How would you touch a girl who you would risk your life to protect?
Feel into all of these questions and transfer the feeling into your touch.
If you are already practicing a bulk of these distinctions in touch, then congratulations, you are way ahead of the game.
If you haven’t been, or if you didn’t even know that you can have these mindsets and practices, then today is the day to start!
There is no time like the present. Practice petting a dog, a cat, or a piece of fabric if your girl isn’t around. If you are dating or are in a relationship, put these principles into practice immediately.
You will accelerate your knowledge in how to touch a woman through practice, so just do it!
You are just getting a peek into what’s available to you in your possibilities as a man. Get into action and put these principles into practice and make some women happy!