There is one reason, above any other, why men decide to improve their communication skills with women.
It might not be politically correct, but I like to deal in facts, so even though I might offend a few feminists out there by revealing this, here goes nothing…
Almost all men get into learning about seduction so they can bed more girls!
There, I said it.
Now, that’s not to say that guys don’t want things OTHER than getting it on! By and large, lots of guys are look for girlfriends and wives, and genuinely want to settle down.
But initially, getting it on more is the motivating factor.
And seduction is the process by which a man goes about getting a piece. If you can’t seduce a woman, you can’t get her to sleep with you. It’s as simple as that.
As luck would have it, the process of seducing has a methodology to it. Applied correctly, it can produce good results again and again.
However, this process is long, and can take some time. It encompasses everything from meeting the girl, to dating her, to attracting her, and finally, getting her into bed.
The problem is with the closing for most guys. The actual seduction – where you close the deal, can be difficult because men often blow it before that happens. They can meet and get the dates, but this last part stymies many men.
In situations like this, you need to be building the seduction from the get-go, so you’re not suddenly trying to switch gears once date number one is coming to a close.
Real seduction is all about building up and sustaining PHYSICAL TENSION.
“What is this tension?” you may ask?
Well, simply put, physical tension is all amping up feelings of arousal, without letting them be satisfied.
Guys experience physical tension ALL THE TIME. All they need to do is see a pretty girl and start talking to her, and those feelings of arousal can barely be contained.
The trick in seduction is to make the woman feel the same way!
Because eventually, the woman is going to want to satisfy those desires – and we all know there is only one way to do that.
The real process of seduction is amping up the feelings of desire and arousal in a woman, to the point where she is practically begging you to take her into the bedroom so all this pent-up tension can be released.
So how do we create this tension in a woman?
Well, there are various methods on how to do this. A lot of them are quite advanced (and very effective), but for the purposes of this article, I’m going to keep things simple.
The first thing you must do in seduction is to lay the groundwork for tension. This comes in the form of “playful teasing.”
Think of how you would tease a friend or a sibling. It would be good-natured teasing, am I right? But in this situation, we want to add a sexual element to the equation.
So for instance, if you’re with a girl on a date, and you order a drink, you could say “So if I have a few drinks, you’re not going to take advantage of me and just use me for getting some, are you?”
This is a fun and playful way of teasing the girl about wanting to sleep with you, WITHOUT coming off as creepy or blatant.
The reason we do this is because we want to start leading the girl’s thoughts towards getting naked. Once the mind is pointed in that direction, the girl begins to think about and imagine what it would be like to sleep with you.
A quick note: don’t over do it with the teasing. A quip here and there is good, but you can blow it fast if you aren’t careful.
After this, you’ll want to start touching the girl as much as possible, without coming across as though you’re trying to grope or feel her up. The act of physical contact can do a lot to amp up physical tension.
So touching her on her hand, her wrist, her leg, thigh, lower back, and elbow can go a long way to establishing those feelings of connection. You can do this at any point while talking to her. You can even try and get closer to her while you are talking. Proximity is important as well.
Now its time to amp up your body language. Let her know, with your eyes, that you’re feeling attraction for her – but never say it and keep playing coy.
This is called sending “mixed signals.” She thinks you’re into her, but there is a measure of doubt, which really amps up the tension. Before long, she’ll want to find out for sure if you’re into her or not.
Next, it’s time to move towards more obvious forms of of discussion. Begin asking her about her fantasies. Try to figure out what turns her on. Keep teasing her and touching her as she talks about what she enjoys.
Finally, it’s time to get physical. At some point, you’re going to have to make your move, because the physical sensation of kissing and being petted will really start to amp up those feelings of desire she’s experiencing.
From there, you must take it upon yourself to lead her towards doing what you want. For instance, taking her by the hand and pulling her towards the bedroom.
This is important, because you don’t just want to stay stuck making out, you want things to escalate. Don’t put the burden on her to move things forward, you must be the one to do it yourself.
Do all the above things I mentioned, and any woman that you meet can be seduced.